Rob Brezsny never fails:

“‘You do not truly know someone until you fight them.’ That’s one of my favorite lines in the film ‘The Matrix Reloaded.’ The oracle’s bodyguard, Seraph, says this to the hero, Neo, after starting a brouhaha with him. It seems Seraph doesn’t necessarily want to kick Neo’s ass, but rather find out more about him so as to determine whether he can be trusted to consult with the oracle. Take this wisdom to heart, Capricorn. I suspect you’ll have some interesting conflicts in the coming weeks. Their purpose is to bring you closer to the people you’ll struggle with, not drive you apart. “

That’s one of my favorite parts of that movie too.