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Are Soul-Mates Bullshit?
Maybe or maybe not. I’m less concerned with the actual “truth” of that question, because it is impossible to prove one way or another. What’s not impossible to demonstrate is one of the effects that holding the notion of “soul-mates” may have over you - one which I’ve fallen prey to in the past.
It goes like this: “We’re soul-mates.” Therefore, it is not up to you how you conduct your relationships, life and behavior in general. It is up to some mysterious fate, which is quite impossible to define or describe or lay hold of. But people you can lay hold of (if not necessarily define), and people are always more important than the concepts we apply to our understanding of them.
So are soul-mates bullshit? The question becomes irrelevant if you’re the driver instead of the passenger in the car of your life. If we are all drivers on the same road then though, we need to understand the importance of agreements within our relationships as well as ourselves.
More on that to follow.
- On matching your meat (or meeting your match)
- Meaning of “psychedelic”
- Anima & Shakti
- How do you decide who doesn’t have a soul?
- Working for a Soul
- Prev: My promise to you
- Next: This Is My Blood
September 20th, 2007 at 2:20 am
You’re always the driver. Even if there is such a thing as soul mates and or the force that created them you can still choose to screw it up with that person. You write as though the notion of having something good handed to you offends you. Why is that?
If someone handed you a million dollars, for the moment you would be rich. But, as you are indeed the driver in your life, you could choose to go out and spend every penny on the same day and no longer be rich.
Why such contempt for the person who handed you the money? They weren’t forcing you to be wealthy. They were merely offering you the chance. Whether you take it or not is up to you.
September 20th, 2007 at 12:16 pm
I’m not sure I understand what you’re basing that on. I am not offended by anything here. I am encouraging people to take responsibility for their decisions and relationships.
A million dollars has nothing to do with this. People are worth far more than that.