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I deny you the power to humiliate me



Re-visiting an excellent essay by Walter Wink on the tactical advantages of non-violent resistance, an issue which is all the more appropriate with this recent John Kerry tazer media event.

Why then does he counsel these already humiliated people to turn the other cheek? Because this action robs the oppressor of the power to humiliate. The person who turns the other cheek is saying, in effect, “Try again. Your first blow failed to achieve its intended effect. I deny you the power to humiliate me. I am a human being just like you. Your status does not alter that fact. You cannot demean me.”

Such a response would create enormous difficulties for the striker. Purely logistically, how would he hit the other cheek now turned to him? He cannot backhand it with his right hand (one only need try this to see the problem). If he hits with a fist, he makes the other his equal, acknowledging him as a peer. But the point of the back of the hand is to reinforce institutionalized inequality. Even if the superior orders the person flogged for such “cheeky” behavior (this is certainly no way to avoid conflict!), the point has been irrevocably made. He has been given notice that this underling is in fact a human being. In that world of honor and shaming, he has been rendered impotent to instill shame in a subordinate. He has been stripped of his power to dehumanize the other. As Gandhi taught, “The first principle of nonviolent action is that of noncooperation with everything humiliating.”







2 Reader Responses

  1. Tim Boucher Says:

    Also excellent: the Art of Peace, by the founder of Aikido:

    http://www-cse.ucsd.edu/users/paloma/Aikido/artpeace.html

    The Art of Peace begins with you. Work on yourself and your appointed task in the Art of Peace. Everyone has a spirit that can be refined, a body that can be trained in some manner, a suitable path to follow. You are here for no other purpose than to realize your inner divinity and manifest your innate enlightenment. Foster peace in your own life and then apply the Art to all that you encounter

    Peace comes from self-mastery!

  2. skip wiley Says:

    Since I started juggling, I cannot help but see it as an excellent microcosm for self-mastery as a whole. a while ago you said “you get what you ask for”, and with juggling (just like most other things), this is illustrated perfectly.

    In a sense, to learn to juggle is to learn to literally *ask* your hands/arms what to do. We make mistakes and mess up, but if we have the proper mindset, we learn that these mistakes come because we’re not asking our hands to do the right thing… if we even *know* what the right thing (for them to do) is in the first place!

    Our brain might think this childishly easy from the outset, but it isn’t all about the brain…. if the brain will allow such a thing to be realized, at least. that can be tough.



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